-Illustration work I did for School Zone Publishing.
A few days ago I published Dale Partridge’s article on whether a dude is worth marrying, the four t’s that must be crossed. He has since written one for the men on ladies, and the four i’s that must be dotted. As a lady myself I want to make sure I am meeting the proper points here to really make a relationship work. It’s pretty interesting to get a glimpse at what we need to be as good partners to our male counterparts. Check it out chickies.
This article is by Dale Partridge dalepartridge.com
4 Signs She’s Worth Marrying
Last summer, My wife and I had the treat of spending 24 hours in Lake Tahoe with 5 couples, celebrating their 20th wedding anniversaries. I took this as an opportunity to ask some serious questions. Their answers helped form my list below.
1. This article is a bit different than the counterpart. I strove to focus on some of the more prominent male struggles of today.
2. This article is written for a male reader. Though I’m sure it will offer value to a women reader as well.
3. These may not all apply to you. But they do apply to others. Please respect that.
4. This is an article for people who desire to be married, if that’s not you, then check out this article.
4 Signs She’s Worth Marrying
- She Shares Your Values - I cannot express how critical this is. A bride must share your value system on the points that matter – spirituality, children, sex, family, and even divorce. If she’s not on board with your core, you might want to get back in the market for someone who is.
- She Respects You - Men have an innate desire to be honored and respected. This is not about submission, rather admiration, adoration, and encouragement. If you find a woman who has a head of respect (She thinks honorably about you), a heart of respect (She desires to follow you) a mouth of respect (she speaks highly of you), and hands of respect (out of love, she helps you) then you my friend, have a keeper.
- She Supports You - A woman worth marrying is an incredible helper. Not out of gender role but out of love. She desires to serve, assist, and support you through the obstacles you meet. It’s not about laundry. It’s not about dishes. It’s about a heart that pours out a nurturing love of companionship. Like the saying goes, “behind every good man, is a great woman.”
- She Captivates You - Let’s throw culture’s definition of beauty to the wayside for a moment. Men are predominantly physical, visual beings. Science, scripture, history, studies, they all back this truth. Luckily, a man’s desires come in all shapes, sizes, colors, and smells. It comes in noses, feet, butts, necks, hands, eyes, and everywhere else imaginable But the key is captivation. Not lust. Can you look at this woman outside of time (because she will change), and say to yourself, “I can wake up every day of my life and believe she’s beautiful.”
I’m going to see Katy in concert come August. It was a huge unnecessary splurge that was my gift to myself for the next five years. I got a floor seat ($114) which isn’t bad unless you are all about that single income lifestyle and you support yourself with a salary that should be more but isn’t. Ya dig? Anyway, I am contemplating dressing up to see her. I think I found a few costume ideas here. What say you?
Recently I suggested to a friend that she and I get a boat go out into international waters and broadcast a pirate radio. Much like the movie Haha, she said also that we would have to have a library of banned books that while I did music she would read in segments over the air. Sound a bit familiar? It’s a pretty fantastic movie. I can’t help it, this is where my mind goes while I’m at work.
So as your DJ for the evening, here’s the playlist babes.
Ok, ok, ok, I realize I haven’t been posting so much work lately. But I swear to you it’s because life has been happening an awful lot to me lately. Know what I mean, sometimes you can’t even remember the last time there was stillness. Hahaha, it’s bizarre. Well, besides my brother getting married I have some other close friends tying the knot soon and for some reason have had particular articles catch my attention (via my Pinterest oddly enough, I generally just surf that thing for pictures of my favourite dudes and clothes ). This is an awesome article for those getting married or even those that are dating purposefully. Check it out.
I hope my lady friends look at this.
This article is by Dale Partridge : dalepartridge.com
4 Signs He’s Worth Marrying
The desire to be married and the desire to be single are both valid journeys. We shouldn’t assume getting married is the right path for everyone. But in a recent study statistics show a majority of people would rather be coupled up than end up single in the years after 30.
I recently reviewed a book discussing the true characteristics of a man worth marrying. It’s titled: Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough
Ultimately the concept suggests that women should consider “settling” for a man who satisfies her major needs but may not fulfill her laundry list of wants. She makes a great point about the qualities that make up a strong spouse and parent, are not necessarily the same which produce butterflies or physical desires.
She discussed the misconception women have in the search for the perfect man. How they spend their 20′s and 30′s passing up 8′s to hold out for a 10 (which doesn’t exist). They then find themselves in their late 30′s and early 40′s settling with a 5 because that’s all who is left. Pretty powerful concept.
First let me lay down a few rules:
- Not all 4 may apply to you, but please appreciate that they could apply to others.
- This is obviously an article for those who desire to be married, if that’s not you, look at a few of my other articles.
4 Signs He’s Worth Marrying
- You share important core beliefs and values: This is number one for a reason. Connecting on a spiritual and emotional level is just as critical as the physical. To be frank, if you don’t align on the things that truly matter, it’s better to cut your losses now and start the search for the man who does.
- You have fun together: Now we all have fun on the first 20 dates, but I’m referring to the hundred that follow. Are you able to laugh, have meaningful conversation, and truly enjoy each other for years to come? If so, you might have a keeper.
- He’s beyond honest: If you catch a scent of dishonesty, watch out! A man’s need to lie is a telling clue about his character and emotional health. It can indicate real insecurity, lack of integrity, or lack of moral standards. And if lying shows up consistently while dating, it’s possible to get worse during marriage. The flip-side: a man who consistently tells the truth is a man who doesn’t have something to hide. This is the type of guy worth marrying.
- He fights fair (most of the time): After being married for over 4 years now, I can tell you arguing is a part of every relationship. Of course there will be days where the both of you leave the house in a fit, but we must remember arguments should end with either an agreement, a compromise or a solution to move the relationship forward. But at the end of the day, he must fight fair – not getting angry with each disagreement, not always needing to get the last word in or dropping to the level of throwing insults in place of mature discussion. If your man can fight fair at least most of the time, it’s a good sign he’s worth marrying.
So where do you stand? Are you passing up 8′s to snag a mythical 10? Are you shooting for the moon and not willing to land on a star? How did this article make you feel? Let me know in the comments below.
1. I met the woman of my dreams.
I wasn’t going ignore the potential of a beautiful marriage just because I was under the age of twenty-five. Sure, some would agree that twenty-five is pretty young, but I couldn’t let that stop me from pursuing the woman I had imprinted on my heart. I couldn’t help but realize she filled everything I was looking for in a wife. She was kind, generous, selfless, encouraging, positive, beautiful, and had a thriving love for God. She was hands down the most beautiful woman I had ever met, and I was not going to miss the chance to have her as my wife and partner in crime.
2. We felt God leading us to marriage.
We weren’t going to ignore the prompting guiding us to get married. At the end of the day, it was about where God was leading me and my future wife, and not what the opinions of others we’re telling us. I’m not saying we had people who disagreed with our decision, but we did have people questioning whether or not we were ready for the commitment. At the end of the day, we were going to follow the guidance God had given us.
3. Life is more fulfilling with each other.
Life as a single guy was pretty awesome, but it couldn’t compare to living life with the person God had created for me. I’m not saying marriage should be everyone’s end goal, but I am saying that God has a special connection prepared for those who are married.
4. We were mature enough to handle it.
Marriage is a big commitment, and I wouldn’t encourage anyone to embark on this incredible journey without first making sure they are mature enough to handle it. Maturity will play a big role in the way individuals respond to trials, tribulations, and the successes that life throws at your relationship.
5. We had the same goals, dreams, and callings.
There is nothing more encouraging for a relationship than finding someone who has the same goals, dreams and callings as you. I’ve come across way too many relationships with individuals who don’t have anything in common. And while there is nothing wrong with have opposite interests, there is a profound connection when finding someone who shares similar passions as you.
6. We wanted to do life together.
My life was great before I met my wife, but it turned out to be even greater once we started spending it together. Not only did we have each other to share experiences with, but we felt bigger opportunities open up once we started doing things as a team rather than by ourselves.
7. We are madly in love with each other.
Not much more to explain here. We both found ourselves madly in love with each other. What more can you ask for when it comes to marriage? We realized that we were willing to do just about anything for each other, and we didn’t care what others thought about our relationship. True love will withstand the test of time. Our desire to live selflessly would be the foundation in which we build our marriage upon.